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My sister and I argue over my deceased father?
WHen I was 6 years old my father passed away. I have little memory of him and often hate that I never really knew him as he worked mostly nights. My sister was 11 and she has a lot of memories. When we go to see our old camp, my sister will refer to it as her and her father`s. When I told her this bothered me (calmly) she said I was being childish and greedy.
I also had the idea to gove my father`s name to my first born son, after telling my sister she wants to do the same.
She is also getting married on my father`s birthday.
Im only 21 and she is 26 now. I know that it may be selfish, but i feel like my sister has had everything with my dad. Is it unfair of me to feel the way that I do?
She also says that she does not know what is better.. to ahve known him and have memories, or to have not known him, so have less to miss…. whats your thoughts?
sibling rivalry. it has very little to do with your father and a lot to do with letting go of resentment you have toward each other for being taken of your the right to have a father in your childhood and for him to give you both away and to hold your children in his arms for for his undying love to embrace you both. you are both in pain and need his arms around you both. you both hurt so bad, that you hurt another without even knowing it.
if he were here, he would not like you both having such petty fights that have made a wedge between you both.
you need to clear your thoughts speak to him and to God and just sit and listen quietly in meditation.
you know i’m telling you the truth.
please forgive each other and know, your Dad is around all the time, God is around and angels are around. We all come into this world for a lesson and we all leave it and we have no choice. but, the choices we make on this journey, we take with us. so be wise, forgive, give up resentment, it is like a cancer. all you have is each other and maybe you both need a break from each other to see what your life is suppose to be and not just living in the past. live for the people that are alive and around you, make those who passed on proud of you and make good choices. God bless, take care. this message is for you….
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